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His excuse

I've still got my rotten cold and I'm really feeling sorry for myself. I took yesterday and today off work as well as tuesday. I guess I'll have to go back tomorrow, it's only one day then the weekend so that's not too bad. Well, I actually heard from my guy yesterday. He was kind enough to send me a text message! Apparently I'm not quite what he was looking for! There isn't really a lot I can say about that, I just wish he had told me a bit sooner so I didn't waste my time trying to contact him or get myself worked up. I got really upset when he text me, and angry. I'm not sure if I got angry because he told me by text, or if it's just because he ended things? I understand that I may not be everyone's cup of tea, but I'm not sure exactly what I did wrong. He said he was looking for a serious relationship and not just a casual one. I never said I was after a casual relationship. Back when we first started sending messages to each other I said I would see where it went, but I have never said I only wanted something casual. I wanted to meet him before I made any decisions. I didn't mention a serious relationship as that scares lots of people off. All I wanted was to get to know him and let the relatioship develop, I had hoped into something serious. Maybe he is using that as an excuse and he just wasn't attracted to me, who knows? I didn't reply to his text message. I didn't know what to say. I felt gutted, but didn't want him to know that, plus I couldn't think straight about what to put, so I thought it was best to say nothing.

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Posted By Josh_37 on 17 October 2008 at 01:43
Well, I've had a similar day yesterday and today, I was getting to know someone on this site that I really did like. I did have concerns about her past and therefore her future intentions, I'm looking for something slow but serious. She said she's after a serious loving relationship and that I'm to judgemental and think I'm better than everyone else. I think I am judgemental and have good reason to be so, I don't approve of one night stands, they're dangerous. I don't see how having that opinion makes me better than everyone else, maybe more sensible but no better. All that arguing for one night stands contradicts her intentions to have a serious relationship.
After all this I got totally blanked no matter what I wrote and I'm certainly not ringing her, I got quite worried, even thought she'd got into trouble. I did eventually get a text though saying xxxx off. A similar situation and ending was what happened to my six month serious relationship 3 yrs ago.
All this shows is that it's so easy to get the wrong message on here from text messages that have no emotion. I can't help thinking if I'd actually rang both instead of using texts and messages there'd have been no misunderstandings. Msn is better than email because its faster, real time and you've got emoticons, Emotions are so hard to get across in text. Also I'm not sure people on here do know what they want, they say they want one thing then back away and realise they're not ready for a relationship, often saying they don't think I'm ready for one.
If I knew the answer to all this I guess I'd not still be on here.
Posted By dave on 19 October 2008 at 13:50
Don't give up love we're not all like that. Doing it by text is just a cowards way out. Your better of without him if that's what he's like don't give them the privileged of knowing he's hurt you. your to sensitive and lovely looking to be alone to long. Love an embarrassed male xx
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